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Are you worried that your kissing skills might not be up to par? With kissing forming such a primal and important role in our relationships, it’s something that you can’t leave up to chance. If you’re worried about your kissing abilities, then it’s best to not just seek advice and assistance, but to actively seek out the most important, useful valuable information. Don’t seek to simply improve your kissing skills, but allow your kissing skills to reflect your personality, nature, and self. A kiss is more than just a physical facet of affection, it’s a hugely important look into a person.

Everyone’s self conscious about something. Whether it’s your looks or your kissing skills, you’re not alone in worrying that you might not be the best. It’s a strange phenomenon. Even the most confident and powerful people in the world possess the same insecurities as everyone else. The difference between them and us is that they don’t let those insecurities control them. Instead, they seek out the information that can help them set those insecurities behind them and turn them into strengths.

You should approach kissing in exactly the same way. Instead of merely asking people for advice and getting varied and difficult feedback, go straight to the source and get the best kissing advice, direct from the experts. Instead of worrying about your kissing and trying to avoid kisses, turn your problem on it’s head and embrace kissing as a learning exercise. The greatest kissers didn’t get there by ignoring their problems. They got where they are today by actively identifying them and working towards getting rid of them.

Unsure of where to start? This free report is a great resource if you’re looking to brush up on your kissing skills, master your kiss confidence, and feel more comfortable when you’re getting physical with your partner. Rather than simply outlining situations, this report is full of practical, useful advice that will save you the time and confusion of having to search for feedback.

Don’t go into your kisses wondering how they’ll end. Uncertainty is the greatest ticket to failure that the world has ever known. Instead, go into your kisses knowing that they’ll end well. When you possess the unstoppable kiss confidence, you’ll master kisses each and every time.

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The beliefs and rules you live in life play a huge part in saving your relationship. If you think that your love affair is a huge failure because you and your partner are not following certain “rules”, then it’s time to break that belief. Here are some love tips that can be hazardous to your love life if followed by heart.

Relationship Advice #1: “Your romantic affair would be better if you straighten your partner out.” Never entrap your mind believing that if you change your partner; your togetherness will be great. Once and for all, you have to let go of the childish notion that other people are responsible for your own happiness.

Relationship Advice #2: “There is a right way and a wrong way to make your love life successful.” Each person is unique and when two unique individuals come together, it creates a very special and distinct bonding.

There is no definite way or “rule” to have a successful love affair.

Relationship Advice #3: “A deep and loving affair has nothing to do with sex.” Believing that sex is unimportant is detrimental to your relationship. Sex is what makes your bond special. It takes you to a deep level of intimacy. It takes you away from your daily pressures. Give time to savor and enjoy this gift in your romantic affair.

Relationship Advice #4: “A successful togetherness allows you to vent all your feelings.” Having the privilege to pour your heart out in a relationship is truly fulfilling, but when you utter something out in the peak of your anger, then it can be a totally different thing.

You are taking a risk of hurting your romance permanently. Uncensored venting has caused so many couples to break-up because one partner cannot forgive what the other partner has said during the heat of the moment. When you are angry, get out and steam out. Bite your tongue before you say something that you might regret for the rest of your life.

Relationship Advice #5: “A successful relationship is a peaceful one.” Everybody argues, even the most emotionally stable couple. Arguing can actually be healthy, as long as it’s approached properly. It can release tension and deep seated issues and produce a sense of trust knowing that you can share your deep seated issues without being embarrassed or forsaken. So don’t worry about how many times you argue, instead worry about how you argue. When you argue, focus on the issue at hand and never attack your partner. Also be sure to have a closure after each argument, you may agree to disagree, but be sure that both of you achieved closure.

Relationship Advice #6: “A successful togetherness requires great romance.” Yes, your love affair should have enough romance to last you a lifetime. But you have to be realistic enough to know that the wild passion of romance occurs only in the first phase of the relationship (honeymoon stage), after a while it matures into a deep, more secure kind of love. It doesn’t mean that when the wild passion has faded away there is something wrong with your togetherness. It simply means that you are moving into another level of intimacy. You can still experience that “wild passion” but not as often as before.

There is all kinds of “how to” advice out there that tell you what to do and what not to do, but I have always believed that each relationship is special and couples should only do what works for them. Do not be afraid to explore and have fun at the same time.

Ruth Purple

You may wonder why therapists and psychologists are often so interested in what happened to you in your past. After all, that was many years ago and you’re obviously not the same person that you were back then. So what’s the big deal about reliving those painful past events?

Here’s why these past events are important.  Let’s say you were my client. It isn’t necessarily what happened to you that I’m interested in.  Instead, it’s the coping skills you developed in response to those events that I’m trying to discover.  Those coping skills will have an effect on any romantic relationship you enter…. guaranteed.

Here are a couple of examples:

Some people have parents who were violent. While growing up they learned to cope by becoming peacemakers. As a result, they never argue…..ever.  They do almost anything to avoid conflict.  In a relationship, sometimes arguing is good. Always avoiding conflict can truly become a problem. You can’t really have a passionate relationship without some disagreements. Others experienced rejection multiple times.

To cope with that pain, they became guarded. As an adult, they are extremely selective who they date to prevent anyone from rejecting them again. In fact, they are often so afraid of being rejected that they seek constant reassurance. This pattern often causes them to be rejected again by their partner who ends up feeling that they are “too needy.”  I could list dozens of ways men and women learn to cope with painful circumstances from their past. These are ways of coping which is why they are called Coping Skills.

What’s important is that you know what your coping skills are and how they affect you in a relationship.  If you don’t know these key details about yourself, you’ll most likely be the type of person that thinks, “If I just meet the right person, everything will be fine in my life.” I promise you, regardless of who you date or marry; the Coping Skills you learned growing up will be exposed in a relationship. However, if you are aware of your Coping Skills, then you can change them.

This is how a woman can transform her relationships. If you’re not sure where to start, you can begin with free online articles. The Internet is full of helpful tips that don’t cost a thing.

To get more in-depth insights, you could also buy a book that will provide you with detailed information on how to transform yourself and your relationships. After working with couples and individuals for years, I wrote The Woman Men Adore as a way of showing women how to become aware of their coping skills and replace them with new tools and skills that are captivating to men.

Of course, there are many other fine books out there besides mine. John Gray, Dr. Phil and a host of others have written popular books that have proven to be very helpful to millions of men and women.

Finally, for the fastest changes, find a professional to work with. It may cost more, but the results are often much faster than trying to do it on your own. Sometimes all that is needed is one or two insights to dramatically change your future.

Bob Grant
Author of The Woman Men Adore

Who doesn’t want to be kissed? Nobody. Each and every one of us loves it. It has that certain magic that leaves us in a daze. Kissing passionately is truly one magical art. It enchants…enthralls.

Kissing passionately is usually a prelude to a more appetizing and exciting action. Even the acclaimed and brilliant Italian conductor, Arturo Toscanini once said about kissing, “I kissed my first girl and smoked my first cigarette on the same day. I haven’t had time for tobacco since.” Kissing passionately brings out the romantic in us. It breaks any love barriers and rekindles dying passion.

For the young and budding love, kissing passionately gives way to the next level of the relationship, and for the old lovers, putting passion in your usual blunt lip-locking activity will surely fire- up that charred sex life. For the young women out there who is looking for love, it helps to know that fifty- nine percent of males would never pursue a relationship if their lip-locking didn’t spark any desire. And for the old love affair, it really doesn’t hurt to give conscious effort to surprise your partner with your once passionate kiss.

For all who needs magic in their relationship, how to kiss passionately is as easy as one, two, three, but comes with a million benefits.

Read through and internalize.

How to kiss passionately:

1. Prepare. The preparation in kissing passionately includes having a fresh breath and making sure that you smell good. So set aside that taco and onion rings. If you’re a smoker, don’t light up prior to your saliva swapping action. It also helps if you have a handy breath freshener. For a more smooth and dreamy experience, soften the lips to get rid of choppy lips. You can lick the dry lips away, or for women, you can use a flavored lip balm.

2. Be confident. The thing with kissing passionately is you have to be passionate about it. No hesitations, no holding back. You have to approach it in a confident, intense, fiery manner.

3. The kiss. Start simple. Tilt you head slightly to the side to avoid nose bumping. If this happens, just be candid, and smile it off, and proceed. Slightly open your mouth and work the kissing rhythm. Close your eyes and feel the sensation. The sensation is like the music that leads the kissing rhythm. Flow with it. Once the moment is ready, proceed to the French kiss. Gently stick your tongue out and gently move it inside your partner’s mouth. Take note of the rhythm, don’t swag it like a fish out of the water, but don’t make it too flaccid or else you’ll be tagged as inexperienced. While you’re in the moment, you can run your fingers through his hair, and stroke the back of his neck. It makes the lip-locking experience sexy and exciting.

4. The perfect ending. After kissing passionately, very gently, bite the lower lip of your partner for a fraction of a second. It’s important that you do it gently, delicately! This sends a message that you want more of your partner. Then to help both of you relax, but still be in the moment, close your eyes and touch your forehead to his, and be in sync with his breathing.

There you have it. How to kiss passionately. Do it well and do it frequently. Enjoy!

Ruth Purple

Watching a curvaceous woman can affect the brain of men, much like drinking alcohol or taking drugs might, research now reveals.

These new findings might help explain the preoccupation men can have toward pornography, scientists added.

Shapely hips in women are linked with fertility and overall health. As such, it makes sense evolutionarily speaking that studies across cultures have shown men typically find hourglass figures sexy.

To explore the roots of this behavior, researchers had 14 men, average age 25, rate how attractive they found pictures of the naked derrieres of seven women before and after cosmetic surgery that gave them more shapely hips. These operations did not reduce weight but just redistributed it, by implanting fat harvested from the waists into the buttocks.

Brain scans of the men revealed that seeing post-surgery women activated parts of the brain linked with rewards, including regions associated with responses to drugs and alcohol.

It might not be especially surprising that evolution wired the male brain to find attractive bodies rewarding.

“Hugh Hefner could have told us that by showing us how many zeroes are in his bank account,” said researcher Steven Platek, an evolutionary cognitive neuroscientist at Georgia Gwinnett College in Lawrenceville, Georgia. “But there’s more to it than buying Playboy, Maxim, or FHM.”

For instance, “these findings could help further our understanding pornography addiction and related disorders, such as erectile dysfunction in the absence of pornography,” he explained. “These findings could also lend to the scientific inquiry about sexual infidelity.”

The scientists also found that changes in a woman’s body mass index or BMI — a common measure of body fat — only really affected brain areas linked to simple visual evaluations of size and shape. This may be evidence that body fat influences judgments of female beauty due more to societal norms than brain wiring.

“The media portrays women as wholly too skinny,” Platek said. “It’s not just about body fat, or body mass index.”

What Do Women Think?

Future research could also investigate the effects that attractive figures have on the female brain.

“It turns out women find similar optimally attractive female bodies as attention-grabbing, albeit for different reasons,” Platek said. “Women size up other women in an effort to determine their own relative attractiveness and to maintain mate guarding or, in other words, keep their mate away from optimally designed females.”

These findings should not be construed as saying that men are solely programmed by their biology, nor that “women without optimal design should just hang up their mating towel,” Platek added.

Platek and his colleague Devendra Singh detailed their findings online Feb. 5 in the journal PLoS ONE.

20 Reasons to Convince Your Partner to Have Sex

If you are faced with a choice of having sex or getting some rest after a crazy exhausting day, and you are leaning toward getting a good night sleep you should know that you might be missing out on a chance to lose weight, improve your immune system, get younger, increase your IQ, improve your mood and prolong your life. And this is far from being a complete list of the benefits of having sexual intercourse. The following are the 20 reasons why you should have sex more often.

1. If you have sex at least twice a week you will look at least 5 years younger. This has been discovered by English researchers who compared couples who have sex regularly and couples of the same age who prefer sexual abstinence. Couples having regular sex looked much younger than their actual age, while those who opposed sex looked their age at best. There is just one disclaimer though, in order for the body and soul to be young you should have sex with a regular sex partner who you care about rather than sleeping around.

2. Exercising in bed is a pleasant alternative to exhausting exercising in the gym. There has been a study done by Italian professor Bruno Fabbri proving that 26 minutes of having sex with climaxing at the end burns all the calories you consume by eating an entire pizza! He devoted a whole separate study to chips and hamburgers proving that the calories contained in these fast foods can be neutralized by a 53 minutes French kiss. Even the efforts the man applies to unhook the bra burn 18 kilocalories. We recommend unhooking it with your teeth since this simple jaw exercise burns 86 kilocalories right away.

3. Hormones serotonin and oxytocin produced during orgasm help get rid of insomnia. Both of these hormones have a relaxation effect and serve as a great sleeping pill. This explains why the moans of ecstasy are quickly replaced with the steady breathing of sleep.

4. Unfortunately, with age, men hesitate to have sex, which is too bad since regular sex life actually helps men to maintain potency, stay in good shape and have a good mood.

5. Bad mood is also a reason to have sex. During sexual intercourse endorphin is produced, which is the hormone that stimulates good mood and optimistic perception of the surrounding world. That is the reason why sex relieves stress and improves your mood. Endorphin’s effects are multiplied by hormones serotin, cortisol and dopamine, which actively fight depression and cause the after-sex euphoria.

6. The skin of sexually active women is smooth and silky. Regular sex  increases the production of collagen protein, which is the element that improves the skin metabolism, moisturizes the skin, and makes its surface smooth and velvety. You are unlikely to see a face of a sexually active woman covered in pimples, most likely they have been disposed of by hormone progesterone, the level of which is directly correlated with how sexually active you are.

7. It turns out that women that enjoy giving oral sex have easier and more enjoyable pregnancies than those women who prefer traditional means of lovemaking. There has been an experiment performed by Australian scientists on a hundred women, the results of which were that regular intimate relationships before pregnancy and especially oral sex help a woman’s immune system get used to the partner’s sperm. After all, most inconveniences during the nine months of expecting are caused by the struggle of the mother’s immune system with the foreign body or fetus. However, if the husband and wife’s bodies “communicated” a lot on the sexually oral level, the woman’s body is more likely to accept the new “guest” without causing any issues.

8. Male hormones pheromones normalize the woman’s hormonal balance. A weekly portion of this substance eliminates any menstrual cycle abnormalities.

9. Out of all the known sedatives, sex is the most pleasant and healthy. During the climax the tensed muscles contract intensively which leads to absolute relaxation. During this time the person not only completely relaxes physically but also mentally. This is exactly the reason why people who have satisfying sexual lives are more friendly and content than those who avoid the pleasures of sex.

10. Sex with the person you love is a great medicine against migraines. It definitely helps the American women according to a study conducted by Illinois scientists on 50 sexually active women suffering from migraines. Every fourth of them had a noticeable reduction of a headache after each sexual intercourse and every eighth woman had a headache go away completely.

11. Here is an original advice for students – during the exams times have sex more often, and if you are single at the time then at least masturbate! It has been discovered that the blood circulation in our body reaches its maximum speed at the peak of an orgasm. The oxygen enriched blood reaches all the body organs including the brain and hence each orgasm increases your IQ level. In addition sexual exercises stimulate the hypothalamus activity, which controls the functioning of the hormonal system along with memory and learning centers. Therefore even self-satisfying during the long nights of cramming for the exams increases your concentration level and improves memory.

12. Sex is the best prevention of prostate inflammation and cancer, both of which lead to a decline of male’s sexual abilities. Regular ejaculation for a man is not only the pleasurable moment of orgasm, but also the emptying of prostate gland, which is the required condition for its health.

13. A passionate and sensual woman who often enjoys the pleasure of sex is very likely to have an ideal flat stomach, which is no wonder since the movement of the penis inside the vagina and the muscle contractions at the moment of orgasm are a great exercise for your abdomen. Strong pelvic muscles not only maintain your abs in great shape, but also your back. Therefore “exercising” in bed replaces any diets.

14. Sex is a great stimulant of the immune system. Those who have sex once or twice a week have 30% more immune cells produced than those who are sexually passive, hence the conclusion that sex can protect against getting sick. Although there is one snag to it, having sex too often on the contrary decreases the number of immune cells.

15. If you suddenly came down with a toothache grab your partner and drag him to bed. Sex is an effective cure of toothache. The healing power is provided by hormones of happiness- endorphins, which are produced in large quantities during sex. Besides sexual pleasures strengthen the teeth enamel and gums since sex improves blood circulation and hence the blood flow to the mouth cavity.

16. During sex the level of hormone estrogen in the female body is increased twice. The benefit of its increased quantity is obvious. First of all, the chances of developing osteoporosis, excessively fragility of bones, decrease. Secondly, this hormone affects the cardio-vascular system and improves the skin condition. And thirdly, estrogen drastically reduces the cholesterol level in your blood.

17. According to cardiologists in the whole world, sex prevents heart diseases. A study in one of the hospitals in USA showed that 65% of patients delivered to the hospital with heart issues have either ignored sex completely or did not get any satisfaction from it. Similar results have been obtained in a study with men who underwent a heart attack. Almost half of them were experiencing problems in bed and a lot of them suffered from impotence. Regular sex is a good exercise for a heart muscle.

18. Sexually active people live much longer than sexually lazy ones. This is the conclusion drawn by British scientists who studied a group of people 45 to 49 years of age for over 10 years. It turned out that the risk of parting with their lives is twice lower for those people who have sex at least twice a week, while rare sexual intercourse unfortunately does not prolong life at all. There is another observation that they made – those who have a good sexual appetite and are married also live longer, and being married is a obligatory requirement for longevity of the same importance as sex.

19. Psychologists recommend sex as a means of communication. The body language satisfies the person’s psychological need to communicate, expressing a whole variety of sensations – keenness, affection, trust, security.

20. In addition, if you are having sex, you are not shooting at a war, not twiddling your thumbs, not spoiling your sight by sitting in front of the computer, not fighting with your significant other, not eating fast food, not cluttering your lungs with tobacco, and so on, the list could be endless.

So with all of this in mind, what are your plans for tonight?