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You can blame your friends, parents, the opposite sex, your education or the way you’ve been brought up for not being able to find your perfect partner. But at the end of the day, it all boils down to just one crucial factor: YOU. The following 5 ideas may open your eyes as to what is preventing you from finding your soulmate. Included are also some tips on what you can do to make a breakthrough.

#1. You allow your past relationships affect future ones.

If you’ve dated a fair amount of people who weren’t right for you, then you have probably developed a comfort zone for the wrong person. This makes it difficult to find your soulmate, since your subconscious mind creates a skewed picture of what a love partner should be like. So, stuck in this vicious circle, you go for people who are not right for you at all. You may even notice a pattern where all your past partners share similar fundamental flaws that were incompatible with you. To get out of this vicious circle, the first step is awareness. Take note of the unsuitable characteristics that all your past partners had in common. Focus on the opposite of those characteristics to attract a a soulmate that’s right for you.

#2. You complain about the opposite sex.

This is a terrible habit we get into very early in life. Girls complain to their girlfriends about guys and guys do the same about girls. While this might help you get some things off your chest and fit in with the crowd, beware of the consequences! The more you complain about the opposite sex, the more you attract the things you complain about. These thoughts get programmed deeper and deeper into your subconscious mind every time you complain. If you keep telling your girlfriends that men are afraid of commitment, don’t be surprised if your next boyfriend takes six months to call it a relationship. If you complain to your guy friends that women are always after money and status, you can be sure to end up with someone who will use you. Don’t do this! If your friends love to grumble about the opposite sex, try not to participate in those discussions. Instead speak to people who have positive things to say or concentrate on the positive qualities of the opposite sex. Think of all the men and women you’ve ever met. If you can think of at least one who doesn’t fit the stereotypes you complain about, then you can be sure there are thousands (perhaps millions) of others and your soulmate is most likely among them.

#3. You accept settling for less.

It’s a pity that millions of people in the world simply accept that it’s next to impossible to find their soulmate. They marry or stay with the wrong person just so they won’t be alone. We develop this tendency in childhood. It’s passed down to us from generation to generation by those who were unable to meet their perfect partner. Just because our parents, grandparents, or other relatives didn’t succeed in finding their soulmates, we automatically assume that we are destined to end up with the same results. THIS IS COMPLETELY FALSE! There are plenty of examples of people who have met their ideal match by having the right mindset. It is not difficult to find your soulmate. It doesn’t just happen to the lucky few. It is NOT OKAY to settle for less. It may be OKAY for the time being but many years down the road you will deeply regret it when you look at your life partner and feel nothing but resentment or emptiness inside. Don’t accept less than your perfect partner! The next time you date someone and see that he or she is not the right person, move on until you find your soulmate.

#4. You don’t believe in soulmates!

To some extent, this stems from the previous reason. Not only do people believe that it’s hard to find their soulmate but many believe it’s impossible! They don’t believe that there is someone in the world who is just right for them. They say this out loud to the world, yet deep down they hope and wish the perfect partner will walk through the door and change their minds. Well, it just doesn’t work like that! You have to believe your perfect partner first. Only then can you expect him or her to come into your life. Throw out the popular notion that ‘seeing is believing’. Basic studies of the subconscious mind show that the opposite is actually true: ‘believing is seeing‘! If you don’t believe it, it will never exist in your life. Period.

#5. You secretly don’t want to find your soulmate.

Let’s face it, any relationship requires effort and finding your soulmate is no different. Don’t get me wrong, it’s extremely rewarding to put in that effort and a profound pleasure when it works out but it’s still an effort. For some of us effort equals pain. Remember: whatever you wish you had in your life is not there because you get some secret pleasure from not having it. This may sound absurd, and even offensive to some people. When you really think about it, though, it starts to make sense. If you were with your soulmate right now, you could no longer get the satisfaction of grumbling to your friends about the opposite sex. You wouldn’t get the sympathy from your family after another unsuccessful date. You would no longer be able to relate to your single friends. They might even begin to resent you for having found someone so great. You may not consciously think or even realize any of these things but they may be subconscious roadblocks to finding your soulmate. To get past this, you need to be clear on the wonderful benefits of having a soulmate and focus on that. Only then will you be on the path toward finding your soulmate.

Elena Krasnova

Are you worried that your kissing skills might not be up to par? With kissing forming such a primal and important role in our relationships, it’s something that you can’t leave up to chance. If you’re worried about your kissing abilities, then it’s best to not just seek advice and assistance, but to actively seek out the most important, useful valuable information. Don’t seek to simply improve your kissing skills, but allow your kissing skills to reflect your personality, nature, and self. A kiss is more than just a physical facet of affection, it’s a hugely important look into a person.

Everyone’s self conscious about something. Whether it’s your looks or your kissing skills, you’re not alone in worrying that you might not be the best. It’s a strange phenomenon. Even the most confident and powerful people in the world possess the same insecurities as everyone else. The difference between them and us is that they don’t let those insecurities control them. Instead, they seek out the information that can help them set those insecurities behind them and turn them into strengths.

You should approach kissing in exactly the same way. Instead of merely asking people for advice and getting varied and difficult feedback, go straight to the source and get the best kissing advice, direct from the experts. Instead of worrying about your kissing and trying to avoid kisses, turn your problem on it’s head and embrace kissing as a learning exercise. The greatest kissers didn’t get there by ignoring their problems. They got where they are today by actively identifying them and working towards getting rid of them.

Unsure of where to start? This free report is a great resource if you’re looking to brush up on your kissing skills, master your kiss confidence, and feel more comfortable when you’re getting physical with your partner. Rather than simply outlining situations, this report is full of practical, useful advice that will save you the time and confusion of having to search for feedback.

Don’t go into your kisses wondering how they’ll end. Uncertainty is the greatest ticket to failure that the world has ever known. Instead, go into your kisses knowing that they’ll end well. When you possess the unstoppable kiss confidence, you’ll master kisses each and every time.

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You may wonder why therapists and psychologists are often so interested in what happened to you in your past. After all, that was many years ago and you’re obviously not the same person that you were back then. So what’s the big deal about reliving those painful past events?

Here’s why these past events are important.  Let’s say you were my client. It isn’t necessarily what happened to you that I’m interested in.  Instead, it’s the coping skills you developed in response to those events that I’m trying to discover.  Those coping skills will have an effect on any romantic relationship you enter…. guaranteed.

Here are a couple of examples:

Some people have parents who were violent. While growing up they learned to cope by becoming peacemakers. As a result, they never argue…..ever.  They do almost anything to avoid conflict.  In a relationship, sometimes arguing is good. Always avoiding conflict can truly become a problem. You can’t really have a passionate relationship without some disagreements. Others experienced rejection multiple times.

To cope with that pain, they became guarded. As an adult, they are extremely selective who they date to prevent anyone from rejecting them again. In fact, they are often so afraid of being rejected that they seek constant reassurance. This pattern often causes them to be rejected again by their partner who ends up feeling that they are “too needy.”  I could list dozens of ways men and women learn to cope with painful circumstances from their past. These are ways of coping which is why they are called Coping Skills.

What’s important is that you know what your coping skills are and how they affect you in a relationship.  If you don’t know these key details about yourself, you’ll most likely be the type of person that thinks, “If I just meet the right person, everything will be fine in my life.” I promise you, regardless of who you date or marry; the Coping Skills you learned growing up will be exposed in a relationship. However, if you are aware of your Coping Skills, then you can change them.

This is how a woman can transform her relationships. If you’re not sure where to start, you can begin with free online articles. The Internet is full of helpful tips that don’t cost a thing.

To get more in-depth insights, you could also buy a book that will provide you with detailed information on how to transform yourself and your relationships. After working with couples and individuals for years, I wrote The Woman Men Adore as a way of showing women how to become aware of their coping skills and replace them with new tools and skills that are captivating to men.

Of course, there are many other fine books out there besides mine. John Gray, Dr. Phil and a host of others have written popular books that have proven to be very helpful to millions of men and women.

Finally, for the fastest changes, find a professional to work with. It may cost more, but the results are often much faster than trying to do it on your own. Sometimes all that is needed is one or two insights to dramatically change your future.

Bob Grant
Author of The Woman Men Adore

Who doesn’t want to be kissed? Nobody. Each and every one of us loves it. It has that certain magic that leaves us in a daze. Kissing passionately is truly one magical art. It enchants…enthralls.

Kissing passionately is usually a prelude to a more appetizing and exciting action. Even the acclaimed and brilliant Italian conductor, Arturo Toscanini once said about kissing, “I kissed my first girl and smoked my first cigarette on the same day. I haven’t had time for tobacco since.” Kissing passionately brings out the romantic in us. It breaks any love barriers and rekindles dying passion.

For the young and budding love, kissing passionately gives way to the next level of the relationship, and for the old lovers, putting passion in your usual blunt lip-locking activity will surely fire- up that charred sex life. For the young women out there who is looking for love, it helps to know that fifty- nine percent of males would never pursue a relationship if their lip-locking didn’t spark any desire. And for the old love affair, it really doesn’t hurt to give conscious effort to surprise your partner with your once passionate kiss.

For all who needs magic in their relationship, how to kiss passionately is as easy as one, two, three, but comes with a million benefits.

Read through and internalize.

How to kiss passionately:

1. Prepare. The preparation in kissing passionately includes having a fresh breath and making sure that you smell good. So set aside that taco and onion rings. If you’re a smoker, don’t light up prior to your saliva swapping action. It also helps if you have a handy breath freshener. For a more smooth and dreamy experience, soften the lips to get rid of choppy lips. You can lick the dry lips away, or for women, you can use a flavored lip balm.

2. Be confident. The thing with kissing passionately is you have to be passionate about it. No hesitations, no holding back. You have to approach it in a confident, intense, fiery manner.

3. The kiss. Start simple. Tilt you head slightly to the side to avoid nose bumping. If this happens, just be candid, and smile it off, and proceed. Slightly open your mouth and work the kissing rhythm. Close your eyes and feel the sensation. The sensation is like the music that leads the kissing rhythm. Flow with it. Once the moment is ready, proceed to the French kiss. Gently stick your tongue out and gently move it inside your partner’s mouth. Take note of the rhythm, don’t swag it like a fish out of the water, but don’t make it too flaccid or else you’ll be tagged as inexperienced. While you’re in the moment, you can run your fingers through his hair, and stroke the back of his neck. It makes the lip-locking experience sexy and exciting.

4. The perfect ending. After kissing passionately, very gently, bite the lower lip of your partner for a fraction of a second. It’s important that you do it gently, delicately! This sends a message that you want more of your partner. Then to help both of you relax, but still be in the moment, close your eyes and touch your forehead to his, and be in sync with his breathing.

There you have it. How to kiss passionately. Do it well and do it frequently. Enjoy!

Ruth Purple

Watching a curvaceous woman can affect the brain of men, much like drinking alcohol or taking drugs might, research now reveals.

These new findings might help explain the preoccupation men can have toward pornography, scientists added.

Shapely hips in women are linked with fertility and overall health. As such, it makes sense evolutionarily speaking that studies across cultures have shown men typically find hourglass figures sexy.

To explore the roots of this behavior, researchers had 14 men, average age 25, rate how attractive they found pictures of the naked derrieres of seven women before and after cosmetic surgery that gave them more shapely hips. These operations did not reduce weight but just redistributed it, by implanting fat harvested from the waists into the buttocks.

Brain scans of the men revealed that seeing post-surgery women activated parts of the brain linked with rewards, including regions associated with responses to drugs and alcohol.

It might not be especially surprising that evolution wired the male brain to find attractive bodies rewarding.

“Hugh Hefner could have told us that by showing us how many zeroes are in his bank account,” said researcher Steven Platek, an evolutionary cognitive neuroscientist at Georgia Gwinnett College in Lawrenceville, Georgia. “But there’s more to it than buying Playboy, Maxim, or FHM.”

For instance, “these findings could help further our understanding pornography addiction and related disorders, such as erectile dysfunction in the absence of pornography,” he explained. “These findings could also lend to the scientific inquiry about sexual infidelity.”

The scientists also found that changes in a woman’s body mass index or BMI — a common measure of body fat — only really affected brain areas linked to simple visual evaluations of size and shape. This may be evidence that body fat influences judgments of female beauty due more to societal norms than brain wiring.

“The media portrays women as wholly too skinny,” Platek said. “It’s not just about body fat, or body mass index.”

What Do Women Think?

Future research could also investigate the effects that attractive figures have on the female brain.

“It turns out women find similar optimally attractive female bodies as attention-grabbing, albeit for different reasons,” Platek said. “Women size up other women in an effort to determine their own relative attractiveness and to maintain mate guarding or, in other words, keep their mate away from optimally designed females.”

These findings should not be construed as saying that men are solely programmed by their biology, nor that “women without optimal design should just hang up their mating towel,” Platek added.

Platek and his colleague Devendra Singh detailed their findings online Feb. 5 in the journal PLoS ONE.